Pronounced as “trik-o-til-o-MAY-nee-uh”, trichotillomania is a hair pulling disorder that often results in bald patches on their head, eyelashes or eyebrows, which cause significant distress for the person who experiences them.
People who have this condition can go to great lengths to hide it and often suffer in secret.
It can interfere with social life and even their work as they can feel too embarrassed to meet people when their bald patches are too visible to disguise easily.
What is Trichotillomania?
The official definition goes something like this:
Trichotillomania, sometimes called hair pulling disorder, is a medical condition that involves recurring, overwhelming urges to pull out hair from your eyelashes, eyebrows, scalp or other parts of your body.
Trichotillomania used to be classified as an impulse control disorder but is now considered an obsessive-compulsive related disorder (OCD) by the American Psychiatric Association. It is considered by many professionals to be body focused repetitive behaviour (BFRB), similar to nail biting.
Although many articles describe trichotillomania as a mental disorder, being labelled as having a “mental disorder” can be upsetting to people who have this condition.
But think of it this way, even nail biting is classified as a mental disorder nowadays! And most people see nail biting as no big deal – there is no real stigma or shame to it.
For people trying to stop long term hair pulling, it can be helpful to view trichotillomania in the same light. And remember, it’s not your fault you have this medical condition so it’s nothing to be ashamed about.
If you’re researching into trichotillomania for a friend or family member who suffers from it, it’s important to keep in mind that it’s not as easy as just “stopping”. It’s a serious deep-rooted condition that requires a lot of help to overcome – often in the form of cognitive behavioral therapy and habit reversal techniques taught by a qualified therapist who has experience in treating trichotillomania.
People with trichotillomania have varying levels of it. For some people, it’s mild enough to just be a slight inconvenience. But for others, the ongoing intense urges to pull their hair can feel devastating – particularly when the effects of trichotillomania have such a visible effect on their physical appearance.
Random fact: 90% of adult trichotillomania sufferers are women.
Symptoms of Trichotillomania
Symptoms of trichotillomania include:
- repeatedly pulling your hair out over weeks, months or years, usually from your scalp, eyelashes or eyebrows but sometimes from other parts of your body.
- An overwhelming feeling that specific hairs must be pulled out, often in conjunction with a belief that the root of those specific hairs need to be removed.
- A sense of relief or release when the hair is pulled out.
- Bald areas on the scalp or other areas of your body, including patchy or missing eyebrows and eyelashes.
- Trying to stop pulling out your hair, but without success.
At what age does Trichotillomania start?
You’re most likely to develop trichotillomania between the ages of 10 and 13 years old. Younger infants can also suffer from hair pulling but this is usually mild and goes away without treatment.
If you’re the parent of a child or teenager with this condition, it’s important to handle the issue delicately. Read this post with the 16 Things Parents of Children With Trichotillomania Need To Know
Is Trichotillomania an anxiety disorder?
Trichotillomania is not considered to be an anxiety disorder, so it does not fall into the same category as panic disorder, social anxiety and PTSD. As with many body focused repetitive behaviours, hair pulling can sometimes be a coping mechanism for anxiety but this is not always the case and there are much more complex factors involved.
Causes of Trichotillomania
It’s not known for certain what causes this condition, but experts believe it’s likely a combination of genetic and environmental factors.
Some of the theories around factors that increase the risk of developing trichotillomania include:
Chemical imbalance: The brain’s chemical signals (neurotransmitters) don’t work properly, resulting in overwhelming urges that result in hair pulling.
Genetics/Exposure: If you have an immediate family member with trichotillomania, you’re more likely to develop it yourself.
Stress: High stress levels may trigger hair pulling in some people, particularly if they’re within the typical starting age range of 10 – 13 years old.
Other disorders: Many people who have trichotillomania also have other disorders, such as depression, anxiety or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
Types of Hair Pulling
People with trichotillomania are usually affected by 2 different “styles” of hair pulling, with the urge to pull their hair falling into these two different categories. The same person might do both types, sometimes on the same day or sometimes in phases months apart.
Deliberate hair pulling: This type of hair pulling is usually precedented by an overwhelming urge to pull, and a strong feeling that specific hairs or hairs in a specific area need to be pulled out. When experiencing this type of urge to pull, the person can’t concentrate on anything else until they’ve succeeded in pulling out the “right hairs”.
Absent-minded hair pulling: This type of hair pulling is usually done while the person is doing something mindless such as watching TV or reading. They often don’t notice they’re doing it until they suddenly snap out of this trance-like state and realize they’ve been pulling their hair out.
It’s quite common for people with this condition to start with only deliberate hair pulling in the early phases of their condition, then gradually incorporate more absent-minded hair pulling over time as the habit becomes more deeply engrained in their routine.
Certain physical positions or actions might trigger a hair pulling episode, such as touching their eyelashes or brushing their hair.
The Emotional Aspect of Trichotillomania
There is a huge emotional component to this condition, and it’s very complex. People with trichotillomania often experience a rush of conflicting emotions in quick succession, and this can contribute to increased levels of anxiety and depression in many people.
Positive Emotions: During an episode of deliberate hair pulling, the relief and release of built-up tension upon pulling out the “right” hair leads to a rush of endorphins which result in positive feelings. They can feel happy, accomplished, relieved, relaxed and calm immediately upon pulling out their hair.
Negative Emotions: Once the positive emotions fade away after an episode of deliberate hair pulling, or immediately after an episode of absent-minded hair pulling, they will often experience feelings of horror, guilt, shame, panic, disgust and sadness.
What triggers trichotillomania?
Although the causes of trichotillomania are unknown, the main trigger precluding the urges to pull hair is usually touching the hairs. This might be the twisting of hair, or circling a fingertip against the tips of eyelashes, or stroking the eyebrow hairs in the opposite direction to their growth. What often happens is that the person will feel a hair that seems “different” to the rest (usually thicker or stronger), and the urge to pull it out will begin the hair pulling session. Sometimes the person will be able to relax once “the offending hair” has been pulled out, but as with most body focused repetitive behaviors this can continue to the point of noticeable hair loss.
Can Trichotillomania be cured?
There are different ways to stop hair pulling, and it’s important for you to explore which ones are right for you. Many of the ways to stop hair pulling fall into the category of habit reversal techniques, and you’ll learn these if you see a cognitive behavioral therapist.
If you think you have trichotillomania, it’s always a good idea to speak to your doctor who can give you an official diagnosis and refer you to an experienced cognitive behavioral therapist.
It’s important to explore the different types of trichotillomania treatment to see what works for you. Treatment of trichotillomania can be complicated, and most of the techniques you’ll try will require time and practice. People with trichotillomania often try several strategies to cope with their urge to pull before they find something that works for them.
Do not get discouraged if you don’t stop pulling right away, or the urge to pull comes back temporarily after a period of being pull-free. Once you start treating your trichotillomania, the coping mechanisms and techniques will eventually become automatic habits to you and it will be increasingly easier to stop pulling out hair in the long term.
Ways to hide Trichotillomania
Many people with trichotillomania feel like they need to hide this condition due to feeling shame and embarrassment. For people who pull their eyelashes, false eyelashes can give the illusion of a full set of thick eyelashes. For people who pull from their scalp, hair toppers or wigs are often used to conceal bald patches. And for people who pull their eyebrows, microblading is a popular semi-permanent method to hide the missing hairs due to individual hair strokes being “tattooed” on.
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What type of people have trichotillomania?
You’d be surprised at how many people have trichotillomania – it’s estimated that between 1-2% of the population has it! It affects people of all races, socio-economic backgrounds, ages, professions, and locations. It even affects supermodels: Victoria’s Secret Angel, Sara Sampaio, opened up about her trichotillomania on Instagram.
On July 20, Sampaio asked her Instagram followers to ask her questions via Instagram Stories because she was “stuck in traffic.” One follower asked the 27-year-old model about her eyebrow routine, and Sampaio replied, “Well I try not to touch them, but unfortunately I suffer from trichotillomania and I pull on them! 😭 so I have lots of gaps in them, I just use a eyebrow pencil to fill out the gaps!”. After receiving messages from fans who also suffer from from the hair-pulling disorder, Sampaio decided to post a lengthier response on Instagram Stories about her experience with trichotillomania.
Dealing with shame
If you suffer from trichotillomania, it’s important to not let the condition define you. You are beautiful and amazing with or without hair – your skills, personality, and the way you treat others are what make you YOU and no amount of hair pulling will ever change that. People love you for who you are, not how much hair you have.
It’s easy to fall into feelings shame and embarrassment when you have visible bald patches, but try telling yourself that they are just skin. Seriously, bald patches are just skin! You have so much skin on display on the rest of your body, what difference does a bit more visible skin make? There’s no hair police enforcing some kind of global rule that we all need to have hair in exactly the right places.
Yes, it might be a bit annoying to fill in your eyebrows or put on false eyelashes or a wig. It’s an inconvenience, for sure. But don’t feel shame around it – think of it as being just one extra step in your daily routine. Or if you feel ready, go out without covering your bald patches up! You’ll soon notice that people out there in the world are too busy worrying about themselves and their own lives to care about whether you have all your hair or not.
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